If you are about to embark on a trip through the often stormy waters of divorce it is to your benefit to have someone there to help you negotiate the sea of emotions. Whether this is your first divorce or whether you have been through a divorce before there is likely to be some significant turbulence to your emotional well-being. A licensed counselor or therapist may make the difference between falling to pieces during the process or sailing right through with a better understanding of yourself and others. The benefits of therapy include: helping you cope with the stress individually, helping you relate to others in the middle of the divorce in a more effective and calm manner, rebuilding a foundation for your new life, and likely even saving you money with your lawyer in the process.
The overall best reason to work with a therapist during divorce is to discover new ways of coping with the unusual level of stress that a divorce can bring. According to the Holmes-Rahe Stress Inventory, divorce is considered the second most stressful life event, only topped by the death of a spouse. See stress.org to learn more about the Holmes-Rahe Life Stress Inventory, click this link. Therapists can teach you stress reduction techniques such as relaxation for your mind and body, mindfulness exercises and meditation, just to name a few.
A therapist will help you to traverse some of the new changes that are brought about in your relationships as a result of divorce. During the divorce you may need assistance on how to handle confrontations with your soon to be ex, or, importantly issues and outbursts that stem from children (if you have them). Due to the intertwined nature of marriage, a divorce may result in other relationships being affected and a therapist can help guide you and support you through the process while suggesting effective communication strategies.
Lawyers vs. Counselors
During a divorce, quite often you will need to hire an attorney to assist you through the process. It can be quite difficult to know what the important points of your case are and it is easy to be distracted by the emotional factors affecting your case. Rather than using your attorney to vent your frustrations and detailing lengthy stories regarding incidents that have no impact on your case, it is much more cost effective for you to take those frustrations to a licensed counselor or therapist. If you are supported by both a lawyer and a therapist, you are much more likely to come out of the process a stronger and more knowledgeable person. The positive benefits of engaging a therapist are so well known that should you decide to move forward with a Collaborative divorce, a mental health coach is used to help with the process as a matter of course.
A therapist can be helpful with the stress of a divorce, but can also help you to re-imagine how your new life will look after the divorce is final. Therapists are trained to help you recover from the pain, frustration and loss associated with divorce thereby allowing you to move on to rebuilding your new life with a solid foundation.
If you are considering or are already in the process of getting a divorce, we always recommend that you hire an Attorney to make sure that your best interests are protected and your goals are being met. We serve the Greater Nashua area and are here to help. If you are in need of a divorce or legal separation and would like to meet with one of our experienced attorneys, call us today at 943-5647.